Ok, I won't go into all the pathetic details but the title phrase, in addition to being a really cool suggestion for a song title (Jimmy Buffett, take notice), pretty much sums up the results of my search for a "meaningful relationship" over the last couple of years. Maybe, as another song title suggests, I'm "looking for love in all the wrong places".
Just to be clear, I am not looking for another wife (I have already had more than enough, thank you) or even a "long term relationship" in the usual sense of that term. I already have a life that fills most of my needs - I have my own home, enough outside interests to occupy my spare time, and a bunch of pets who love me and need me. What's missing is a similarly situated woman who has a life of her own but who understands that these things are complemented and enhanced by the inclusion of someone - a "soul mate", if you will - to share the joy of a good life. Someone who knows that time spent together and time spent apart are both necessary components of a good life.
"Friend with benefits" doesn't quite capture what I am looking for only because that description seems a little too casual. I want a committed, exclusive relationship (and yes, we are definitely talking about sex here) but not a "24/7" one that a lot of women seem to expect. I'm looking for more of a "let's get together when it's good for both of us" kind of situation. Your place, my place, someplace in between - it depends on the circumstances. Unusual I know, but I'm sure there is a woman out there who wants the same thing.
So there it is. If this sounds like a post on an on-line dating website, well maybe it is - if you happen to be someone, or know someone, who is looking to get involved with a 65 year old guy, subject to the qualifications cited, then please contact me. But remember, I have already been "stood up, let down and left broken hearted", so if you can't do any better than that, please don't reply.